This post really moved me—I am so, so sorry for your loss. Your pain is palpable and devastating, yet beautifully rendered. I’m in the process of trying to conceive after two miscarriages. You’re not alone 🤍 zero pressure to read but because I see your comment about wanting to read about others experiences: I wrote about mine in a post called “how to keep a sad secret.” It’s there if you ever feel like you need someone else’s story. I hope you’re taking good care of yourself…I’m sending you lots of love and hugs!!
It’s awful when our bodies betray us. I had one miscarriage just before my first baby. 5 weeks only and still just — really shitty. It helped me greatly to read others’ stories during that time. I hope this post helps someone else, too 🫶🏻🦋
Thank you Violet, I’m sorry you went through that. 5 weeks is a terrible loss. You still envisioned a life after finding out you were pregnant. I’ve tried to tell myself my earlier losses don’t count as much but they do. Each is a permanent wound. ♥️
I dealt with the same thing as you, Violet - an early loss before my first child. It hurts so much less now but I would be lying to say that the pain is gone.
I love your writing, but I hate that you had to experience this. That's really shitty!!! Thank you for so beautifully sharing your journey with miscarriage. It's so brave to reveal our most vulnerable selves online! The more that women talk about the non-linear path to motherhood, especially the way you did with walking us through the before and after of it all, too, the less isolated many of us will feel. You're awesome. xx
Thank you, Elin! After my first miscarriage I was desperate to hear someone else’s experience with it but all I could find were vague posts. I appreciate your kind words.
This post really moved me—I am so, so sorry for your loss. Your pain is palpable and devastating, yet beautifully rendered. I’m in the process of trying to conceive after two miscarriages. You’re not alone 🤍 zero pressure to read but because I see your comment about wanting to read about others experiences: I wrote about mine in a post called “how to keep a sad secret.” It’s there if you ever feel like you need someone else’s story. I hope you’re taking good care of yourself…I’m sending you lots of love and hugs!!
It’s awful when our bodies betray us. I had one miscarriage just before my first baby. 5 weeks only and still just — really shitty. It helped me greatly to read others’ stories during that time. I hope this post helps someone else, too 🫶🏻🦋
Thank you Violet, I’m sorry you went through that. 5 weeks is a terrible loss. You still envisioned a life after finding out you were pregnant. I’ve tried to tell myself my earlier losses don’t count as much but they do. Each is a permanent wound. ♥️
Indeed, the loss itself is what stings 💔Sending you a big Substack hug for your weekend ahead — thank you for writing your piece! 💌
I dealt with the same thing as you, Violet - an early loss before my first child. It hurts so much less now but I would be lying to say that the pain is gone.
I love your writing, but I hate that you had to experience this. That's really shitty!!! Thank you for so beautifully sharing your journey with miscarriage. It's so brave to reveal our most vulnerable selves online! The more that women talk about the non-linear path to motherhood, especially the way you did with walking us through the before and after of it all, too, the less isolated many of us will feel. You're awesome. xx
Thank you, Elin! After my first miscarriage I was desperate to hear someone else’s experience with it but all I could find were vague posts. I appreciate your kind words.